"IT'S A ---- !!!"
Me: Ok, last chance. Mummy’s going to the doctor while you’re at school today. Boy or girl?
Rockstar: Boy!
Me: Why?
Rockstar: Because I talk to boys better! Because I enjoy being a boy!
After school/ gynea trip…
Me: So Rockstar, ready to know if it’s a boy or a girl?
Rockstar: I have to pee.
Me: Ok, ready now? <Thinking: quick tell him, before he can tell me he wants a boy> We’re having a girl.
Rockstar: <Not unpleasantly surprised> Oh! I thought it was a boy. It’s really not a boy? (Classmates) also said boy… <thinking> Actually no, they said boy and girl.
Me: Well probably because they didn’t want to be wrong. If they guess both they’ve got to be half right. Mummy’s got to be having either a boy or a girl.
Rockstar: What am I going to say to a girl? I don’t know what to talk about to girls.
Me: That’s ok darling, your father doesn’t either, but I married him anyway. You’ve got girl friends in school you play with every day.
Rockstar: Oh yeah. But I like being a boy <like he’s feeling sorry for the baby having to be a girl>
Me: The baby might like being a girl. Your girl friends like being girls, don’t they? <Rockstar looks dubious – apparently how can anyone like being a girl when they could be a boy> And now all your friends have something different, including you – you’re the only one with a baby sister (of his good friends), aren’t you?
Rockstar: (One of his best friends) has a baby brother. (Another best friend) has an older sister. Oh – but (girl classmate) has a baby sister. Well two, actually – twins.
Me: Wow, that many girls?
Rockstar: <shaking his head with What Does One Do With So Many Girls expression> Ye-eah! Cra-zy!
Me: You going to tell your friends tomorrow at school?
Rockstar: Yeah! We’re having a girl!
Me: You could ask them what they know about baby girls. And any suggestions how to talk to them.
Rockstar: <gravely, accentuated by pointy index figure and frown-y expression> I-have-to-protect-the-baby-from-naughty-people-pushing!
(Because he’s forever conscious of being tiny and one of the younger kids in school… Though I wouldn’t rule out him frothing at the mouth if the baby touches some of his stuff. He and the dog bicker all the time… And he says snobby things like, “I have nothing to say to K1s.”)
Rockstar: <still with superhero expression> Mum. Can I have a bunk bed?
Me: <?? thinking: How did we start talking about bunk beds> Why?
Rockstar: Because taking care of a baby can make me tired. I don’t want to do it all the time. Sometimes I need to hide and do my own things.
**Update: Quick as a flash, I followed CA’s advice (comments) about Charlie and Lola… To this result:
Me: Hey! I just remembered! You wanted to be like Charlie and Lola with the baby, remember?
Rockstar: Oh yeah! Can we name the baby Lola?
Me: Umm… But your name isn’t Charlie anyway.
Rockstar: <without skipping a beat> Yeah. Can we change it to Charlie?
Uh…. I walked right into that one.
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Well so maybe there’s something to old wives’ tales from the “girl” guesses in this post. “You were fairly sure it was a girl, weren’t you?” I accuse my gynea, because looking back at our conversations she did seem to be expecting a girl… Come to think of it everyone except Rockstar was expecting a girl. To which she replies that from my account (which I agree with), the giveaway was this pregnancy felt so very different from Rockstar’s…
“I wouldn’t say ‘sure’… Some women want one or the other so badly they fool themselves when observing the symptoms…” Which was probably why she kept asking me if I had a preference. I really don’t. I’m just dying to know, kind of like if you flip a coin and go “Boy – I shall raise him thus; Girl – I shall raise her thus…” and not being able to think that far for not knowing what we’re getting drives me nuts.
“What about when people say second pregnancy is always different from the first?” this was my Mum’s.
“Every woman is different. But if there’s a big difference in symptoms from one pregnancy to the next it does imply you’re carrying something quite different…”
Well can’t argue with that. The morning sickness is easing, but I dream all the time. The most bizarre dreams like I’m high on something (wasn’t Yellow Submarine allegedly written when the Beatles were high?), several every night, and I wake often. With Rockstar, I just slept like a log. And fought with Legal & Compliance at work.
Now, what am I going to call Baby Girl Rockstar?
Thanks for sharing this with us! 🙂 Now you can start thinking of names and shopping for “dresses” for baby. Have fun!
Thank YOU, sweetie – you drop by real often. But.. Know who is the one who said in the car driving back that we need to donate away more of Rockstar’s clothes? Kings. Our Gynea was totally after him as the chief spoiler in the family esp now we know we r getting a girl..!
Wow, you’ll have your own real life Charlie & Lola 😉 I’m sure Rockstar’ll be as protective, patient and loving to Little Miss Rockstar as Charlie is to his little sister.
OMG!! Can’t believe I totally forgot at one point he’d wanted to be Charlie! Thank you so much for reminding me, that’s an excellent way to get him all big-brotherly, I’ll remind him n get the books n DVD or something..
How about…Rock Princess? Hahahaha
Yaay!! Rockstar now can be a big brother! Superstar! Rock princess!
Oh! Oh! Oh! Congratulationsssssss!!!!! What fun!!!! Pretty pink things, polka dots, and an excuse for hello kitty!!!!! :)))
Congratulations Princess Aileen! May the girl grow up into a beautiful, smart and charming princess like her Mum. I recommend the following names: Jasmine, Pocahontas, Alice, Aurora, Mulan, Snow White, Cinderella, Ariel and Belle (the pantheon of Disney Princesses).
Rockstar is going to have a wonderful teacher to teach him how to talk to and care for girls.
What! Kings doesn’t know what to talk about to girls? Surely this is not the Casanova of LSE I knew (haha).
My hub paid you to say that isit.. You know a lot more about Disney princesses than I do, it turns out 😛 Shame, I didn’t even watch a lot of them… Rockstar too.. His whole room is decked out in Cars characters but none of us have caught the movie!
My hub paid you to say that isit.. You know a lot more about Disney princesses than I do, it turns out 😛 Shame, I didn’t even watch a lot of them… Rockstar too.. His whole room is decked out in Cars characters but none of us have caught the movie!
Congratulations, Aileen!! I bet you’ll enjoy dressing your little girl up in frilly frocks! 😉
Thanks Amelia and Diane, let’s see if she is princessy!
Heather and Sukie, frills ah? Hello kitty n polka dots ah? Erm.. I was thinking yay can go shopping n farm off more Prada bags 😛 oops. She may not like Prada.
Thanks Amelia and Diane, let’s see if she is princessy!
Heather and Sukie, frills ah? Hello kitty n polka dots ah? Erm.. I was thinking yay can go shopping n farm off more Prada bags 😛 oops. She may not like Prada.
Congrats! Now you have one of each and get to experience a different kind of fun. How about calling her Rock Chick? Only for the blogs although am sure she can blend in HK with the name too.
Haha that’s true actually… Final decision will be after she comes out and we have an idea what she’s like (Rockstar is the Rockstar because he was a real difficult baby/ toddler…)
Yay! So nice to know that you’re gonna have a princess!! Congrats!! 🙂
Thanks dear… Gonna need advice! I’m still in raising-a-boy-mode..