We recently changed Putonghua tutors (more later) and I was initially worried about Rockstar’s reaction, so I pussyfooted about for a few days, initially telling him she had gone back to Beijing etc.. Except he seemed nonplussed so then I just came clean:
Rockstar: <nodding> Ok… So I will meet a new one then.
Me: Uh, I thought you liked her again, the big fight was fixed (they’d been having probelms somewhere in the middle of this post) and you guys were doing your lessons alright now?
Rockstar: <gravely> I only liked her the other day (when I thought they’d repaired the relationship) because she gave me things. You can change her. She’s no good.
Me: (Guess he was referring to a lack of erm, “sincerity” or “dedication,” rather than results, what does he know right, he’s 3.5) So actually you’re fine with having to try out new tutors?
Rockstar: Yes. Ms W I just said ok because she gave me this (Doraemon) fan. <Rooting about in his desk> Where’s my fan… See?
So I gave him a choice between two (to be honest I am indifferent between personal tutor and nanny and then he liked the nanny) and told him if he wants the one of his choice he needs to support her by showing results, otherwise he’ll lose her. Because her job is to get him to use Putonghua.
Rockstar: <decisively> Ok, Mum – I’ll work with her. Don’t give me Ms C. She tangled my yo-yo string and didn’t say anything! (He expects a casual “Oh sorry” or “Excuse Me” before moving on, my thin-skinned Emily Post of a son sigh) Tsk!
I have a sneaking suspicion his next is to make the tutors/ nannies he likes look good… Fine by me if it gives him the motivation to do better so we’ll see… And how come he doesn’t make the mother he likes look good humph…
This has nothing to do with Putonghua tutors. I just wanted to personally tell you how great you look after all that pregnancy weight gain. I know it’s been a few years. But you’ve really inspired me to think that all hope is not loss, since I’m already tracking towards 30 lbs now, and I still have 2 months to go. 🙁
I worried that if I end up gaining 40, I will be overweight forever.
And I’m sick of reading about all these moms online who only gained 20 lbs!
Oh… Yes I gained 45lbs easy, most of it in the earlier trimesters, you actually don’t gain as fast or as much later on I think…I don’t think 45lbs is that uncommon but you need to check with your doc if she thinks it’s ok… Another colleague who gained a bit more than I did was very athletic and didn’t care either tho ppl at work called her a whale, she just went back to her old lifestyle after… I didn’t even plan to drop the weight fast because I didn’t think rapid weight loss was very healthy, so I lost it over 4-6 months…
When I got back to work colleagues said things like “Oh you still look fat” but since I didn’t do anything to lose it fast, I didn’t care… I didn’t restrict the actual amount of food intake but I did completely cut out fast food and most sugary deserts… other than that just as a habit I don’t drink soft drinks or eat creamy pasta on a regular basis anyways, the only extra exercise I did was add an extra 2.8km briskwalk usually once a week to my regular dogwalking
I breastfed for almost a year, waking 90 mins early before regular work schedule n adding another 90mins expressing before bed but honestly I didn’t find breastfeeding helped with the weight vm, i think cutting down sugar and fast food in particular helped the most!