One Of Those Not So Weekends

1) It’s not Shakespeare, but not for the reasons you think….. 50 Shades Of OMG ARE YOU KIDDING ME WITH THIS?! written by The Mummy Blogger Who Was A Pretty Wild Teen Mum And Is Now Also A Missionary. She blogs about talking about sex with her eldest son, who is in his early 20s. AND it’s not cringe-worthy.

My personal lazy opinion (having not read the book) is when fashion mags like Harpers’ Bazaar (US) published socialites’ reviews of the book sometime back, the whole 50 Shades phenomenon in entertainment was still kinda……. cool? In a forbidden fruit way? And then it got way too hyped. In the Miley Cyrus Dance Moves way.

And in case you need an extra reason why I would mention this:

Taken off Jamie's blog. Like, how does this person not come off as "reverse-selfish". He OWNS her orgasms?!

Things that make ya go “HMMMMMMM.”

All of them belong to him?!

2) But wait – Jamie wrote a follow up post – A Missionary’s Position To 50 Shades Of Grey. Here’s an excerpt:

The problem with this book is not that it’s about rough sex or BDSM or bedroom fetishes, it’s that if we want to enter into that kind of space with another human being, we should probably try to get there through mutual trust and relational intimacy………. ………not under threat of rejection.
There is bullying and abuse in 50 Shades of Grey, but I don’t really think it happens in the bedroom. It happens when a rich, powerful, good-looking man exerts his money, power, and good looks to get his way without the permission of the woman he wants to bone…….
“…...Quite frankly, the only way 50 Shades of Grey could have gotten so big is that we consciously chose to ignore the icky underlying message of the story – that a woman should feel grateful to oblige a demanding, controlling, severely broken man if he’s hot and rich - because we were too busy enjoying the sexy parts…….
……”There is bullying…… but I don’t really think it happens in the bedroom.” No,  Jamie, no I don’t think it does either. And I agree the whole S&M thing is just distracting from something that could be a lot more thought-provoking. But well, even Shakespeare threw in “Sick Sex” (look at Hamlet). It sells. (See what happens when I try to write something “sexy”? BUZZZZZZZ.)

The good looking powerful man is cliched, and such is human nature, regardless of whether it’s a male or female, but there is something to a storyline about threat of rejection, just in different forms. While 50 Shades explores threat of rejection through a couples setting, someone in power bullying someone vulnerable isn’t so much just “icky” but….. no, actually there are no words. Threat of rejection, which I expand to encompass a deliberate with-holding of love is a possibly far more thought-provoking or powerful theme in………. you guessed it. Parenting. (Well what d’you expect, I’m a parenting blogger not a couples relationship blogger :D)

Here’s a (mostly) unrelated example I arrived at from various parenting books  and articles – it has to do with the massive difference between “effective” parenting of olde vs today: Perhaps one of the most “effective” archaic tools in (tiger) parenting, to get a child to “perform,” or “do what the parent wants,” is to “withhold love”. Or orchestra the Fall From Favour. (The “You are no longer The Favourite. Your sibling is The Favourite because they have done what I want”.)

Arrived at via Christian Grey no less, but seriously - now you can see some similarities, right?

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3) Not so much a link, more a shout out about the Training In Effective Parenting Communication Skills course I learned about via Rockstar’s school (a.k.a. No Yelling Coaching :D) For real though, Katherine Sellery and Claryss Nan Jamieson teach implementation of Dr Louise Porter’s Guidance Approach To Parenting – here’s a quick e.g.: When your child “acts up” so to speak, they are trying to meet a need. See yourself as a detective, looking for Clues and Cues, following a Breadcrumb Trail to the root of the issue. Be aware that when you interpret Clues and Cues, you are seeing it through your eyes, coloured by your experiences and impressions (and really, whether you’ve had your latte for the day :D)

I hope I put it correctly. It’s for relatively a lot of hours, but I’ve found the several seminars/ workshops so far to be pretty useful. You learn a lot. You learn to think differently. Plus, dynamics with the other mums magnifies the effect, because of the “case studies,” so you may want to ask like-minded mum friends along too…)

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4) OK change subject - hardly very icky: The Secret Life Of Superhero Toys.

Dis is cutes.

Dis is cutes. Unless they really hurt the mouse.

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5) Dis is also cute: 86 Year Old Woman Sends Letter To Bank. Don’t suppose anyone cares if she hurt the bank :D This is here though, because I thought it was a great mental exercise in creativity, seeing as she’s 86 and all (hope I’m not next in line to get one-a these letters for sounding condescending :P)

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6) Best illustration of the misuse of quotation marks to your kids. Kind of. Caveat on the use of some “words” though ;)

Says it all.

Says it all.

Says more.

Says more.

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7) For a change, JD and Rockstar have the skit this week, titled Spot The Dog And Rockstar after the old game we used to play whereby one of us puts JD on Sit or Down/Stay and we see how long it takes everyone else to spot her.

Where they?

Where they?

Dere They.

Dere They. (Kudos to the store for letting JD in, it’s a NICE store and there are a few other customers).

Have a good week ahead dears…

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Miss-Speak #39 – The Brazen One

#39

If I buy frozen yoghurt home from the food court, Rockstar usually doesn’t finish a full cup (even the “small” serving size we find quite big) and will put the rest in the freezer. To this end, I try not to give the Miss her entire frozen yoghurt in one sitting either. The Miss of course has other ideas…

Miss: (After she’s finished a second helping of several tablespoons; there’s still about half left in the freezer) WHERE’S MY YOG-HURT!!

Me: (Showing her Rockstar’s unfinished cup from the freezer) Look, see how much Ko-ko still has. He doesn’t eat that much in one sitting either…

Miss: Oh. <looks in Rockstar’s cup thoughtfully> <brightens> Give ME. AHHHH. <opens mouth wide>

(Rockstar snorts and rolls his eyes)

(This is actually the Miss' impersonation of either Macaulay Culkin or Edvard Munch's Scream... She was very sporting because she pleased to be mentioned in his recent assignment (:D he had written "I can't stand when she screams," which she considers quite the compliment))

(This is actually the Miss’ impersonation of either Macaulay Culkin or Edvard Munch’s Scream… She was very sporting because she pleased to be mentioned in his recent assignment (:D he had written “I can’t stand when she screams,” which she considers quite the compliment))

A-and it’s officially Fruity Friday in school today! Since they announced it, Rockstar has been looking forward toget this - buying an apple off the playground. Freak boy. 

(And this is the attitude-driven face I get from him when he knows I'm trying to send a random pic of him to the dad)

(And this is the attitude-driven face I get from him when he knows I’m trying to send a random pic of him to the dad)

ps: The fund-raising Bake Sales at school are one of the few times Rockstar actively seeks out a cupcake… Something about the novelty of him and his buddies getting to choose something to buy and eat together I guess, though he has also come back saying they all decided to go play instead, when the queue was too long…

So anyway I never thought about it before, but now they’re doing it with fruit I really hope it takes off, because it sounds like a great way to get kids more enthusiastic about fruit as well… (Not… that they don’t periodically have Learning Units where their lunch boxes are checked over and their eating choices “rated” green, orange or red in past, just hopefully the novelty of actively choosing fruit together on the playground takes off as well..)

And… For the record, I’m actually not tha-at anal about food, compared to some of my friends. Sure I read labels, but some of the Malaysian (not American, a la Michelle Obama-style :D) mums I know here 1) really, REALLY go all-organic (and I mean. All); 2) choose stuff that has less that 3 “E-something” preservatives; 3) make sure their kids “have all the ‘colours’ on their plate”. Right off the bat, items 1-3 are by 3 different mums here. It’s not like OMG My Child Ate A Tictac!! Detox!! Detox!! But – guys, am I right to say there are “Junk Holidays”? i.e. when the kids ingest any junk it’s kind of Ok. This is like what happens in Vegas (stays in Vegas). And we will be returning to *normal* lives after this.

(In case you’re wondering: I like “Squeezies.” Very convenient to carry around and you can easily substitute them for sugar-laden juice or flavoured milk, they’re mess-free with caps you can put back on (but either refrigerate the moment you get home or get your toddler to finish it in one go – I usually do the latter), many have all-organic ingredients and a mix of veggies your kid might not willingly eat on their own, along with blended fruit and water. Not sugar, not juice, but water. And nothing else.)   

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“Look, Ma – No Photoshop!” – featuring murals of Muntri, Armenian, Ah Quee, and Cannon Street of Georgetown Penang

Inspired by Rockstar’s school learning unit about art – you see, Rockstar normally doesn’t really like producing “art”, in the sense left to his own devices, he uses few colours and usually ends up with what look more like labelled “diagrams,” science nut that he is… So this is dedicated to inspiring and interesting new ways of learning things.

Graffiti: Art or nuisance? It depends doesn’t it? There is a moment before the paint hits the canvas; breathe right and you can change the way the painting looks. 

I've SEEN her on some popular website or other: the "Little Girl In Blue." Offhand I thought it was Bored Panda...

Dis is art: The CNY Ker-splat.

I've SEEN her on some popular website or other: the "Little Girl In Blue." Offhand I thought it was Bored Panda but I quick search doesn't turn it up...

I’ve SEEN her on some popular website or other: the “Little Girl In Blue.” Offhand I thought it was Bored Panda but it doesn’t turn up in a quick search…

Friend of Rockstar’s Who Demonstrates Magic Tricks In School – This One’s For You ;)

Now you see him.........

Now you see him holding postcards………

Now you still see him. With "Where AM I ??! D-uh face..."

Now you still see him. With “Where AM I ??! D-uh face…”

Well then, how did he do that, and with no Photoshop either…

Did you catch that? Do it again...

Did you catch that? Do it again…

Poof! He even has this HK Scouts baseball cap Kings gave him, which he wears all the time

Poof!

"For my next trick, I shall Kung fu my way into this one..."

“For my next trick, I shall Kung fu my way into this one…”

(Magicians never reveal their secrets :)

(Magicians never reveal their secrets :)

The Miss adds her two cents:

The Miss adds her two cents: "Da Grandpa's ride is bigger than MY ride..."

“Da Grandpa’s ride is bigger than my ride…”

"AND so much cooler"

“AND so much cooler! Lookit all da COLOURS!”

"The trishaw uncle provides extra umbrellas to shade your lovely self"

“The trishaw uncle even provides extra umbrellas to shade your lovely self”

(Regardless, we would’ve horsed around with more pics if we weren’t avoiding the worst of the sun…)

And – and -

"What is WRONG with these tourists?!"

“What is WRONG with the tourists?!”

Obligatory spin past historic Fort Cornwallis before heading back…

Dis issa cannon.

Dis issa cannon.

Dis issa Pigeon Bath.

Dis issa Pigeon Bath.

PUBLIC Pigeon Bath. Like the Romans had. In Rome. For Romans. But this is with pigeons. (No….. I don’t really know why I typed that.)

And dis is Barney.

And dis is Barney.

At least I know why I typed that. It is Barney.

We pass what must be one of the Little India streets...

We pass what must be one of the Little India streets…

...and I wish I had time to look for beads and cloth... (Btw - little known fact - I've worn Salwar Khameez and Sari in college for dinners - they were gifts from my Indian Scholar friends at Nanyang Tech Uni in Singapore.... it's also when I learned to tie a Sari...)

…and I wish I had time to look for beads and cloth…for craft (Btw – little known fact – I’ve worn Salwar Khameez and Sari in college for dinners – they were gifts from my Indian Scholar friends at Nanyang Tech Uni in Singapore…. it’s also when I learned to tie a Sari…)

There's what I consider a thriving Chindian community (Chinese+Indian mix)... Two of my best friends growing up are Chindian (and gorgeous) and another of my best friends has Chindian kids ;)

There’s what I consider a thriving Chindian community (Chinese+Indian mix)… Two of my best friends growing up are Chindian (and gorgeous) and another of my best friends has Chindian kids ;)

And then…

Dis is art. I'm talking' about the "Funny Egg Ice Cream" and "Brown Sugar.... What?" Of course I am.

Dis is art. I’m talking’ about the “Funny Egg Ice Cream” and “Brown Sugar…. What?” right next to the mural like it SO belongs there as part of the thing…

Which is around here, with a small street where you can souvenir shop ( we didn't really)

Which is around here, with a small street where you can souvenir shop

And I don't know what kind of pose this is. He's brandishing two ballpoint pens shaped like guns that he found at one of the tourist stalls.

And I don’t know what kind of pose this is. He’s brandishing two ballpoint pens shaped like guns that he found at one of the tourist stalls.

And that’s all she wrote, baby.

Rockstar pretending to be a asleep...

Rockstar pretending to be asleep…

ps: We paid RM 20 (about HKD 48) per 30 minute ride which stops as long as you like; the trishaw drivers have itemised maps so you can pick where you want to go, and we selected a bunch of murals (and Fort Cornwallis)… When the ride lasted longer, we weren’t pushed very hard to pay extra (and didn’t have to)… There’s some tourists posing with the murals, but surprisingly really not that many…

More details of the murals on the streets at onlypenang.com; more street art inspiration here, off Bored Panda..

 

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