Macao And The Venetian (Part 2 – Zaia and the Qube)

After paying MOP 788 each for a show we’re not sure Rockstar will sit thru, we try our best not to be late. Just like umpteen other people.

Having come down 10 minutes early, we’re sandwiched right in the center. My throat starts to close up. I hate crowds. Rockstar grumbles a little because no one’s moving but for the most part my son is holding up better than I am.

A middle-aged woman passes by in a pink brocade cheongsam with a red feather boa before I can snap her pic. I only just barely manage to catch the couple in red, in full Chinese dress. None of them are speaking Putonghua (in fact, we hear almost no Putonghua among the many guests we pass for the duration of our stay)… The majority of conversations around us sound Thai.

(My parents took basic lessons in Thai long ago – like many Penangites, they like to hop over the border and go shopping in Hat Yai and Bangkok because Newton’s Law of Going Shopping dictates thou shalt always enjoy shopping in the country thou does not live in.)

The next day, the lady in the Zaia gift shop remarks, “We had maybe 1,000 Thai visitors at the last minute. It’s not usually so badly crowded even on weekends.”

There’s also a group here and there from India, plus a smattering of overheard conversations in Singlish and Cantonese.

Then we’re off to the races. There is a horrendous crowd, but we encounter no pushing, no loud conversations. Everyone waits patiently to walk in.

I get stopped while trying to catch Rockstar on my iPhone when two clowns wearing globes over their heads land in the audience. The man in front of us, part of a couple I’m almost sure is Thai, is asked to put his video cam away. He grins and speaks with a heavy accent, “Excuse me, I don’t speak English.” The attendant repeats the request politely (in English) and the video cam disappears.

Several minutes later, the lights dim and the real show begins.

I pull out my iPhone at least 3 more times during the show, to send text messages. No reaction. All around me, eagle-eyed attendants continue to discreetly request the audience not take pictures.

We’re sitting just several rows from the stage, in center aisle seats – quite a few Zaia performers pass near us, some engaging the audience as they go. As they approach, I feel Rockstar (who sat on my lap for a better view and left his own seat empty for the majority of the show – the seats were a little low for him) tense at their costumes and makeup. From behind Rockstar, I shake my head quietly.

The performers don’t miss a beat, all quickly avoid eye contact with Rockstar, discreetly detour or remain a few feet away. They’re just a little brilliant.

There weren’t many kids in the giant auditorium, and Rockstar was the littlest by a long shot, that we could see as we scanned the audience. We were later asked by other tour participants how Rockstar found it – well, he loved it. The first few acts were a little less entertaining for a 3 year old (though no less impressive for grownups) but there’s a large screen behind the stage with a starry backdrop that occasionally moves and changes. Any “I want to go”s were easily kept at bay by drawing Rockstar’s attention to other parts of the stage.

The later acts had Rockstar at the edge of his seat throughout. It was a great first circus show for him. We’d go back.

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Rockstar with Heart – I snap this quickly as people are filing out. No one stops me til I shift position and the stage is captured in my frame – then I’m politely stopped immediately. At the end of the show, some heart balloons fall into the audience. To my dismay, I miss catching one for Rockstar. The same Thai man with the video cam hands Rockstar his balloon and I thank him profusely.

Such a small gesture from a stranger – but one that further shapes my entire impression of the show. (“Circus” is the first thing Rockstar talks about when he wakes the following morning.) I hope Thai guy won big at the casinos.

Then it’s a supper of room service Wantan noodles in soup (absolutely loved it – though wouldn’t particularly recommend the Margherita pizza we ordered earlier – and btw Room Service’s default language is Putonghua) and on to the next day where we finally make it back to Qube.

Ta-ra-ra-Rockstar

10am the next day, we’re almost the only ones there. It’s nice and quiet, and the place looks spotless.

The under-5 section Rockstar spent most of his time in… (This is a pic from the flyer – looked nicer than my blurry pictures trying to capture Rockstar as he scrambled around in here.)

When he wasn’t up here…

Or down here… (Daddy loves pool)

It’s our only encounter with Putonghua (from other guests – not a few hotel staff address us in Putonghua before switching, with varying degrees of comfort, to English – Kings speaks quite a bit of Cantonese to them too)  during the trip, when a boy who looks to be about 10 starts taking the balls from the table.

But it’s something we’ve also encountered (thankfully n-ot too often) in other play areas around HK, with children speaking various other Asian or European languages too… By this time, it’s almost 11.30am, Rockstar’s been here about 90 minutes and quite happy to break for a snack and then we go back to the room and checkout.

When we reach the ferry terminal, Kings eyes the queue snaking outside from where we would have redeemed our free ferry tickets with the coupons given us by the hotel. Rockstar is crashing fast, so we ask the (nice and friendly) cabbie to bring us to another terminal, where we purchase our own tickets. The coupons are valid for that day only, so we pass them to the friendly cabbie.

Rockstar is asleep before we reach the waiting room and then board the ferry.

Ever hopeful, I dressed Rockstar in his school uniform under the jacket – but nope, it just wasn’t gonna happen.

I notice quite a few people decline the food offered on board. The woman sitting in the aisle seat next to mine complains in Cantonese to the ferry attendant that the tv is too loud. I can’t tell if the 3-4 carat “diamond” with 2 other “diamond” side stones that she’s wearing is real, so I look for other clues in what she’s wearing. Nondescript head-to-toe black, with velvet loafers embellished with crystals. I can’t see her handbag. Nope no clue. She doesn’t eat the food either.

Kings has the pork with rice; when I decline my portion the attendant helpfully plies me with a ham and cheese sandwich, of which I eat half (partly because it’s heavily buttered which I don’t go for, partly because I see most people around us not eating).

As he-of-the-more-sensitive-stomach-of-the-two-of-us naps, I feel mild discomfort. The ride isn’t particularly rocky (and I never got seasick til I came to HK and got stuck on a boat with a bunch of private bank clients from China in what probably passes for Rush Hour On Victoria Harbor – every time the boat pitched, they were yelling and stamping their feet exuberantly, it was a real party) but the graphic sounds of some poor soul throwing up throughout the ride keep me from dozing off.

I love the Gondola and shops area… It’s like a Magritte picture, with the bright blue sky and darkened shops… Even though I know it’s fake, I’m still getting the feel-good vibe… We should look into painting the ceiling in our apartment that way…

And now the million dollar question:

Would we go back to The Venetian-Macao sometime for a quickie vaccie?

Yes. It took a freebie to get us over because we would never have thought to come here with Rockstar on our own. But now we know to come back on our own.

We’re hoping the highway will be ready next time so we can drive over though.

Rockstar developed an itchy red rash all over, that his pediatrician has diagnosed as an allergic reaction, either to new food or soap/lotion. Kings and I used the same stuff in the hotel without any problem, just I usually pack Mustela or Johnson & Johnson for the Rockstar and forgot to do so this trip. If your child is sensitive to some perfumed products, you may want to BYOM (Bring Your Own Moisturiser).

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Macao And The Venetian (Part 1 – The Manchester United Experience And More)

I never liked Macao.

Lost money too fast in the casinos when we first visited maybe 6 years ago.

Can’t even remember which old casino we went to, where I found the dealers so… business-like about taking my money.

(Vegas spoiled me. It’s not easy to compete with blonde, motherly auntie dealers who go, “Sure honey, come on over (to my Blackjack table, says the dealer) – I don’t feel lucky tonight.” “Awww honey? Are you sure you wanna do that?” We ended up showing her all our Elvis Wedding pictures at Little White Chapel before we left. Just her, there are dealers there who are not blonde motherly aunties.

Then again everything’s a package. Part of the Vegas package is like, 25 hours of flight time and maybe just under HKD 7,000 for a round trip ticket.)

Kings brings friends and clients to Macao on occasion, but neither of us are serious gamblers. Money we gamble is money we’re willing to lose – “entertainment cost.” Like when you go to the movies or watch a concert. Only in Macao the concerts never seemed to last long enough for me.

(Also, while my mum loves the egg tarts, I… don’t eat egg tarts except to be polite.)

So you’d have to pay me to get on a ferry to Macao.

Or… send us a night’s free accommodation plus entry to Qube, 9,000 square-feet of children’s playground, as part of the promotional package for the Worlds Of Fantasy Coloring-in Competition – organized and hosted by the Venetian Macao and coordinated by Ogilvy Public Relations.

This hastily snapped picture does NOT do the entrance to the place justice, it’s just all I can manage before we have to get down from the tour bus…

Rumor has it there are other things to do besides sit next to gamblers who totally outclass you, make a rookie mistake and feel the irritation emanating out of everyone else at your table.

(Hint: It feels a bit like when, standing in a crowded lift, you push the “door open” button for the poor soul clicking in her heels as fast she can across the lobby toward you in any office building in Central. Actually push it, not just pretend to push it.)

We pass a Circque Du Soleil Zaia poster as we speedwalk thru the lobby, and inquire about tickets. There are just 8 left. It’s HKD 788 per person on a Thursday. We hit immediately.

Rockstar eyes the spread in the VIP lounge, selects a Kiwi fruit, gets a little huffy because the attendant unwraps the straw that comes with his orange juice for him (you have to ask, before helping him)… He doesn’t get juice regularly, yet today decides he will have none at all (except one sip)…

After lunch at Bambu restaurant it’s a tour of some of the larger rooms… (But we likey ours and it’s not that much smaller)

(Yes those are towel animals. Whatever turns you on baby)

The room seems to meet Rockstar approval. But he will still suffer no paparazzi.

Down the wide corridors after the room tour…

Never did make it for the Gondola rides <disappointed> even though it’s like, 5 minutes, with photo ops and costumed gondoliers… We thought we would try it the next morning before we left, but it was too early…

We visit the Man U store (The Manchester United Experience)…  “Store” is misleading, there are exhibits and surround sound soccer stadium experiences not to mention various different kinds of game booths…

Rockstar experiences Sports star…

Has big shoes to fill…

Picture of my child throwing himself against a ball fixed in the wall (as we all would like to do from time to time)…

Picture of my child running around while a pair of sneakers horn in on the photo op…

Picture of my child getting chased by a bullseye (no, not really)…

Spying a copycat…

This looks like an unhappy person…

Kings and I are not really soccer people – but that was a pretty cool store.

Man U fans should probably come visit – all 3 gadzillion of you

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Disney CARS and Coloring Competition at the Venetian Macao

We were invited for a free overnight stay at the Venetian Macao hotel, lunch, a tour of some of their facilities… It was a chance to meet Flo and Ramone from the Disney CARS movie on exhibition, plus join the Worlds Of Fantasy Coloring-in Competition – all organized and hosted by the Venetian Macao and coordinated by Ogilvy Public Relations.

*Coloring-in contest details below

Disney CARS Flo and Ramone are in attendance, right by the booth with all the contest entry forms. Mummy needs to pack her nice underwear, her Rockstar’s a fan.

Spot the Rockstar…

It’s not about winning, it’s about the contest experience…

So says the mum who knows her son will probably not win? Rockstar….. isn’t a huge “color-er”. More of a doodler. A typist on a keyboard <sheepish>. But in Rome, do as they color. I milked the whole Travel-To-Macao-See-Cars-Enter-Contest experience. And made up words.

It’s why Rockstar’s working on it at 10.00pm instead of demanding his usual library of Mr Men books before bedtime.

I… never spent time getting Rockstar to practice his coloring in the past… We do those restaurant kiddie menus with the crayons in a holder at the center of the table, but that’s about it. I didn’t deliberately not do coloring with him at home (though I did read sometime back that too much coloring practice might enforce in a child that their own drawings aren’t that good), just….. he’s not a big color-er.

And I never tried to make him one.

Here’s the thing – it’s the Worlds of Fantasy Coloring-in Competition by Disney on Ice. Bet there are a gadzillion entries.

How many kids of the umpteen hopefuls will get to win some of the official prizes and then get to be happy and proud of winning (said prizes)?

How many more kids will get to enter a coloring competition and then be happy and proud they entered a coloring competition?

I think winning the official prizes should be a bonus. But it’s so easy for my child to find joy just in taking part. I just need to look for my own joy in seeing him take charge of his own entry and enter the competition. He can feel my happy and proud.

In a competitive society like Hong Kong’s, I know I risk coming across as a flake. Or a hippie. “It’s not whether you win the race, it’s how you run it!” (Probably get some eye-rolls around me)

But Rockstar is 3. He went to see Flo and Ramone in the cast metal. Then he filled his entry in the hotel room and we went back to the entry form drop box after breakfast.

This is my son’s entry. Some of the color pencil markings are too faint to be picked up in the lighting at the breakfast table but pretty much everyone’s in blue. Like when Picasso had the blue phase and (Hugh) Hefner had the blonde phase.

Biased, Mummy view: My Rockstar is an abstract colorist with unique interpretation of the subject matter!

Unbiased view: Y-eah, I don’t think we’ll win any of the official prizes.

(But you might!)

Rockstar’s proud to be entering his first coloring competition. He spent some time selecting the right color pencil, and refused any suggestions to add anything else to this picture.

(Note he has umpteen pictures of Disney CARS in his room.)

This entry is just the way Rockstar wants it to be. He wanted to be in charge of what he put on his own entry in this competition.

And – everyone – The Rockstar would like readers  to know he did his entry all by himself. I’m proud of him.

*The Following Requested By The Venetian Macao:

Disney on Ice presents Worlds Of Fantasy Coloring-in Competition

Grand Prize:
1 night accommodation for two adults and two children at The Venetian® Macao-Resort-Hotel Bella Suite
Breakfast for two adults and two children at Café Deco, Fogo Samba or Blue Frog
A-Reserve tickets for 4 to the Disney On Ice presents Worlds of Fantasy
Roundtrip CotaiJet™ ferry tickets for 4 (for HK residents only)

2nd Prize:
Buffet lunch OR dinner for two adults and two children at Bambu
A-Reserve tickets for 4 to the Disney On Ice presents Worlds of Fantasy
Roundtrip CotaiJet™ ferry tickets for 4 (for HK residents only)

Other Prizes:
A-Reserve tickets for 2 to the Disney On Ice presents Worlds of Fantasy – a total of 10 sets

How to enter:

All children aged from 3 to 12 are welcome to enter the competition. Complete the coloring entry form in its entirety, fill in your contact information and drop off the completed form into the collection box located at the Disney On Ice presents Worlds of Fantasy CARS display at The Venetian® Macao or mail to the below address and postmarked on or before 17 December, 2010:

Disney on Ice presents Worlds of Fantasy Coloring-in Competition
Destination Marketing Department
The Venetian® Macao-Resort-Hotel
Estrada da Baia de N. Senhora de Esperanca, s/n
Taipa, Macao (SAR), P.R. China

Participants can pick up colouring entry forms at the “Disney On Ice Presents Worlds of Fantasy” CARS Display area at The Venetian Macao.

Prize winners will be announced on 21 December, 2010.

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Ferry To Macau

This is in the ferry terminal before we board to Macau… Why do I like this saying even when I’m not sure exactly what it means? Why is the Rockstar in Macau (from whence I’m posting) on a school day (or two)?

I think I just told everyone I let my son skip school today. Oops. And it’s Library Day.

<gloat> But we returned our library book early. Hah!

Redemption! I’m a good mother after all!

There’s crowds, people sitting cross legged on the floor or occasionally squatting, and umpteen luggage bags everywhere… This is blurry because it’s hit and run – I didn’t dare take lots of pics of crowds just in case someone yells at me…

Guy With Camera observes me, then turns his own camera to sweep over us (he was originally filming in the other direction for awhile)… Was that barter? I think so! (Not really)

Chanel and Prada mingle with nameless backpacks… The Prada one guy is carrying looks real, don’t know enough to comment about the Chanel. Pretty sure the iPhone4s and iPads are real though…

Our ferry tickets are part of a trip organized and hosted by the Venetian Macao and coordinated by Ogilvy Public Relations.

Kings eyes the crowd (below this pic – I made a big show of aiming my iPhone up into the air) and disappears for a few minutes with the Rockstar on his shoulders, returning triumphantly, “I upgraded us to First Class.”

The original tickets were free, it was HKD 100 each on the upgrade.

And off we go

In First Class, we get the works: “We have a choice of 2 types of cup noodles, Pork and Sesame Oil.”

Kings is intrigued. “Is the Sesame Oil one really oily?”

“Uh… I don’t think it’s really oil,” our attendant explains carefully. “Se-Sa-Me O-il is a flavor”

I don’t think they get many people who ask this…

Rockstar bums a few mouthfuls. Kings polishes the rest off. For the most part Rockstar eats a salmon sandwich we brought from home. It’s quiet and peaceful, but far from empty in first class. Rockstar is asleep on my shoulder shortly after this pic.

And then we’re there.

But where are we going? Why are we going?

Hint: This is what the Rockstar’s room (for the past year thereabouts) looks like. You may not have watched the movie, if like me you lived under a rock (or a beautiful neighborhood near a park and then was so consumed by work that after 6 months moving in  still didn’t know how to get to said park via the resident’s exit and instead used the main road because that’s how the taxis do it).

But it’s really hard not to know who the Disney Cars bunch are…

(And it’s really, really hard not to start on about this in the middle of the night but I think that’s a whole blog post…)

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The Christmas Un-present

Helped the hub buy me a watch for Christmas <grin>

“You don’t like surprise presents do you?”

It’s the big one in the center…

Now my hub knows what he got me for Christmas…

I’m aiming to get the strap resized in this little lane…

Spot The Christmas Decorations…

I’m not sure I don’t mean the poster…

(There’s tinsel hanging from the roof of the other overhead bridge)

Random Christmas tree on the flyover connecting Prince Building, Landmark, Chater House and etc… But what I’m really looking at is the Citibank… For the longest time I passed demonstrations as I did Bumps to Babes runs… Tape recordings of “CItibank Pui Cheen Pui Cheen”… It’s quiet today though…

There we are, next to Shanghai Tang…

Random picture of watch straps…

This uncle has been changing my watch batteries and resizing straps for me…

About HKD 25 for a strap resize…

To my right, more little stalls…

In this here alleyway, I also put extra soles for my branded shoes…

(Just like walking with extra soles and it’s easier to replace them if the original sole is virtually un-worn down…)

But after waiting for uncle to change some other guy’s battery he gives my new Nixon a once-over before saying he can’t resize it…

What else do I want for Christmas?

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You Know You’ve Switched Sides When You Look At SuicideGirls And Think…

Ohmigosh. Those girls. Their parents.

Umm… Maybe they’re fine with it? Stripping down to music on a webcam is their choice right….. God forbid I offend a couple thousand heavily tattooed SuicideGirls.

“SUICIDEGIRLS IS THE NATIONWIDE ART SLEAZE PHENOMENON” – LA Times.

I glance quickly at the site – most SuicideGirl hopefuls are about 20. When did all this happen from the time I was an impressionable teen? Oh wait, that was like, 2 decades ago. Most of the girls on the site wouldn’t be born yet. I’m a fossil.

This fossil likes tattoos. I’ve occasionally asked more mature Christians about it, their reactions are mixed. No, you can’t get one Vs It has to do with what the tattoo means to you, WHY you want one. Your conscience. Whether you’re a head case (in which case you either are a tattoo-ed head case or a tattoo-free headcase.)

When I worked in dealing rooms in Singapore, it wasn’t that uncommon for some of my colleagues to have them (strangely much fewer seem to have them in Hong Kong). One trader had a big spider on her bum. A consultant had a scorpion on his hip. It faded into a greenish smudge that friends referred to as “The Sad Seaweed”.

Briefly considered a tattoo for my 30th birthday but it’s Super Giant Turnoff to the hub. And as if I could make up my mind. Back of my neck? Ankle? Small of my back? Abdomen? Hummingbird? Tribal? Crucifix? Didn’t give scarring myself permanently the thought it so richly deserves. Scoped out Johnny Two Thumbs in Fareast Plaza, Singapore. Felt so daring for walking into the shop. Or was that the whiff of hotplate beef rice from Cahaya, the Malay food stall that’s been there for like, forever. We’re both fossils.

Vacationing in Bali and Phuket, seeing sunbathers with faded ink splotches, I know I can’t maintain that. I can’t even keep up a regular pedi routine and haven’t been for a facial in years. I know someone with beautiful large tattoos who says the secret is to not put them in areas where you get a lot of sun. That kinda sucks. I thought tattoos were decorations you want people to see.

Anyway. “Hey dear. Look at this.” It’s a great song. Catchy. The two girls in the video are beautiful, cool, heavily tattooed. I’m straight, but with that tune and those girls, I’m captivated as Kings plays it on his laptop after receiving the link from someone on his Facebook. And then. They start taking each other’s clothes off. I blink disbelievingly. I…. loved that video! Why did they have to strip?

It’s so nicely shot. It’s gone viral. Beautiful girls minus clothing. You do the math. I’m not sure many virtuous videos would spread as fast. And no, you’re not getting the link here. You probably already saw it anyway, I’m late blogging about it.

I’ve crossed over to the dark side. That black hole of a place from whence no ray of “coolness” as much of today’s world defines it or sense of humor about these things ever escapes.

But for the record (as long as I don’t later learn of some damage I’m doing to my child’s upbringing by allowing it), Rockstar may have an earring or tattoo if he pleases when he grows up. Not body piercings though – I think the chance of infection is higher.

(I don’t think he’s going to go for it though – I can’t even get him to wear a hat most of the time be it cold or sunny, unless it’s his Halloween Police Officer’s hat. He loathes face or body paints and anything he has to put on that isn’t absolutely necessary. I don’t even get cute t-shirts. Beautiful Bumps to Babes tee with a dog on the front, “Every puppy needs a boy,” and all I get from the Rockstar is “No, mum. I won’t wear.” When you have a girlfriend in another 10 or 15 years, let’s see what happens to the ‘tude, my darling.)

“That’s such a great song,” my husband enthuses. “What is that? Let’s look for the cd!”

I watch it again. I can’t help being captivated – the girls are stunning. The spring in their step as they sashay down the street, they’re everything a teenaged me would have wanted to look like. That’s the really frightening thing – how many little girls can get this on their cell phones and laptops today? Even now I feel the pull, the urge to be like Cool SuicideGirl.

Just before they start taking their clothes off again, I hit the pause.

“YOU ARE NOT PUTTING THAT ON YOUR FACEBOOK!!”

Sometimes, the man I married needs a Shot Of The Blindingly Obvious.

As all around my ears my “coolness factor” comes crashing down. It’s a spectacular crumbling of ruins that shouldn’t still be standing from decades ago. The overgrown path that leads to that way of thinking has been so untended it should no longer even exist.

“But… those swallows (tattoos on her hips) are amazing. Do you think….?”

“No. It’s huge. NO – ok?”

Fine, me too.

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Happy Birthday Rockstar (Again)

It’s a bit of a problem, when your birthday is a little too close to that of a bigger superstar’s. Especially when whole countries go on holiday and 4 Sundays before that Christians light candles. Even though you are a rockstar, the day you were born may be a little less important. Just a tad. You might get just one set of presents. One chance to pig out on cake and other sweets.

However, when you’re born to parents who can’t remember when their anniversary is, miss celebrating it most years and occasionally make a day up when they feel like it, you’re good to go.

So Happy Birthday Rockstar. Finally. After watching other kids blow out the candles on their cake in class, as you told Mummy this morning, This Time My Turn! Muahaha. (Yes, you really do the laugh. As in It’s My Birthday, Muahaha!) Next up, world domination.

So we pick up the best Chocolate Banana cake we can find at Cova (another default option we usually did for work events) for want of something to stick candles in (Rockstar reminded us there must. be. Candles!) because on school runs, noticing the pale grey carpet, we’d figured tiny bite-sized cupcakes with icing for Rockstar and classmates to minimize the mess. We’ve ordered them from our favorite café several times, and once again place another order over the weekend without thinking.

But 90 minutes before it’s time for us to meet Rockstar in school with the goodies, the café tells us they had a problem. The mini cupcake machine broke down the previous evening and after the dust settled and they’d fixed everything they suddenly realize – they’ve got no eggs. And they wait for shipment suppliers, they don’t buy their own. (Yeah we were a little ??!!??!! This is Hong Kong, where things usually move quickly without little glitches like the lack of an egg. But then we’re not in the town area, we’re in a furniture warehouse, albeit one near a market.)

Daddy saves the day by running the friend who dropped us off over to the nearby Ap Lei Chau market for a dozen eggs in a plastic bag and speedwalks the bag into the café kitchen in 6 minutes flat. All that was missing was the whip, the hat, the Indiana Jones theme song.

Bag of Eggs: HKD 15

60 Mini Cupcakes: HKD 240 (because they feel bad about the eggs)

2lb Chocolate Banana Cake from Cova: HKD 500

Chance for Daddy to Be Involved And Save The Day: PRICELESS

Rockstar never eats those cupcakes in the café. He doesn’t much care for cake either, he usually picks out the fruit (I keep thinking we’re so lucky). But after having Happy Bday sung to him, suddenly my son can expertly peel the paper off and devour 3 of em.

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Priceless Pic #123 a.k.a. I Thought Men Only Think This Is Funny When They’re Drunk

Rockstar’s best scurrying spider impersonation to the tune of Itsy Bitsy Spider sung as fast as he can… Spiders, apparently, also wear an extra pair of pants on their head…

Beats me where he got this one… He’s been doing it about a week – whenever he finds pants in the laundry and stuff…

Apparently it’s not just some grown men completely drunk out of their skulls who decide it’s hilarious to wear their pants on their heads and run around…

Darling, is this you?

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Significant Conversation #101: What Makes A Girl

Me: How was school today?

Rockstar: It was good <smiling>

Me: Played with X, Y, Z?

Rockstar: <smiling> Yeeah. But Z wasn’t there today. W got pushed. He cried.

Me: So… <cautiously> You like school.

Rockstar: NO! There. Are. Girls. There. Girls! STILL!! Tsk!

<Theatrical Dismayed Expression And Angsty Head-Shaking (yes, really)>

Me: But… You like S. She’s a girl in your school?

Rockstar: Not really.

Me: (<thinking> Oh no. And I was so happy he was finally starting to not hate girls so much.) But… S is a girl’s name.

Rockstar: She’s a boy.

Me: ???? No way S is a boy’s name.

Rockstar: She doesn’t get much angry. Girls get much angry. S is a boy.

<pause> Also Q.

Me: Uh… Q like your fish? (It’s a more unusual girl’s name. I was wondering how he came up with it for the Firemouth Cichlid he reeled in on my iPhone a few days ago.)

Rockstar: Yeeah.

(Oh wow. My son named one of his virtual pet fish after some girl in school. In some cultures they’d be married by now.)

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The Effect Of Music On A Rockstar’s Mind

*Warning… Entry may be completely devoid of writer’s usual wit and charm <oh come on, it’s my blog isn’t it> because she’s working things out in her own head about how, when and whether to start Rockstar on music lessons.

(She would add this has nothing to do with the electric guitar he got for his bday but like, why bother)

Pro: He’s typing his Mr Men Collection on Word Doc

Con: He’s typing his Mr Men Collection on Word Doc

(instead of trying to write, which he still can’t)

Conclusion:

At least he prefers Word to tv and I needed a moment of sanity so I’ll take it!!

Off the BBC website somewhere in the music section:

The Mozart Effect suggests that your child can increase their intelligence by listening to Mozart’s music. It claims to have the backing of scientific research and has generated a vast literature. It sounds like a wonderful idea. However, it’s not that simple.

“There’s no evidence that just listening to music has any effect at all.” Dr. Alexandra Lamont, University of Keele

Also:
ScienceDaily (Mar. 16, 2009) — Children exposed to a multi-year programme of music tuition involving training in increasingly complex rhythmic, tonal, and practical skills display superior cognitive performance in reading skills compared with their non-musically trained peers, according to a study published in the journal Psychology of Music.

Play music while baby Rockstar slept:

<All self important> Very Ceremonious Check!

Except it had nothing to do with upping his IQ. Nor was much, if any of it, Mozart. (And we also know a Korean family who questioned the quality of sleep/ play etc when there was background music to distract the young mind.)

(I have no further comment re IQ-upping because I believe it is nothing without other factors in a child’s upbringing that I count far more important. And the only reason I mention I tested within the highest 1-2% of the population in my late teens (quite sure it was 1% but too lazy to dig up the old test result my dad proudly laminated) on the (then) standard Mensa test is to further color my previous statement.

Early on in my working life I was strongly advised by a mentor not to disclose my Mensa test score on my cv. But I’m not working now, and I wanted to argue for how IQ ain’t everything – look at me haha)

My mum brought over some baby sleep music cd made up of various classical music pieces and while I can instantly identify snippets, we used to play the cd so often, I have no freaking idea what the song titles were – we lost the cd cover amid the jumble of baby blankets, half-chewed drool-covered toys and soiled diapers what now seems like a millenium ago.

We were playing any baby sleep music to help Rockstar differentiate between night and day (besides hanging the usual thick blackout curtains, and (very) loosely following the Gina Ford Contented Baby schedule stuff). When he woke, we played lively nursery rhymes as we went thru those baby exercises to get him moving about faster under his pediatrician Dr Leo Chan’s instructions.

(Music was the most effective, actually, because Rockstar likes sleeping with the lights on – but play the sleep music and his whole body immediately relaxes.)

I got my own Grade 8 in piano at age 17 ie not particularly early, though one of my earliest toddler memories is of Yamaha group music lessons in Petaling Jaya where I was born. My mum initially hoped I would ‘enjoy” music, rather than simply learn exam pieces, so I had music lessons very young, but only started exams when I was the ripe old age of 9. She enrolled for music lessons with me, and mother and daughter did scales and arpeggios together til Grade 3 when arthritis made it hard for her to keep up.

But along with those memories are ones of when I began to join little group concerts and demonstrations as a child.

There was a “system.” Play each piece 3 times perfectly, before you can move on to the next. For each mistake you make, you will need to play the piece 3 more times perfectly, before you can move on. That didn’t last too long – I did worse with the 3 times rule and they eventually scrapped it – it didn’t help get me in concerts much.

(Another one lasted much longer though – when we were out in the car, I had to add up the numbers on car license plates around us. That soon graduated to converting miles to kilometers when we passed milestones on the highways or even dirt roads in Malaysia. My dad competed with me on speed and accuracy.)

I think I was about 9 years old when we started. I also served the coffee – that meant making sure the mug was full after just one swig, not making sure there was any in the pot. In my teens I knew kids in our neighborhood who were subjected to similar, though maybe they started a little later. And at least a few never go home anymore.

Sometimes, I think I know where they are, I know the way to that place. As a teen I questioned how much of what I was being made to accomplish was really for me. Sometimes, I didn’t care – I just wanted the family to be happy, hoped for parents who wouldn’t fight – and if I achieved, at least for awhile everyone was happy. It was “so easy” to have “a happy family” – achieve, it makes people happy.

The sweeter the idealist, the more bitter the cynic upon disillusionment. I badly needed Christianity to teach me it doesn’t matter – honor my parents anyway – to bring me back. Ironic, since they are staunch Buddhists.

The year I did my Grade 8, I also had:

Black belt grading in Taekwondo (3-5 days’ training a week)
State Championships for Taekwondo
State Debate Championships

Interact Club President (mostly fund raisings for donations)
SPM (Roughly like O-levels) – (up to 3 tuition classes a day after school – I took the max allowable number of subjects, ie 10)

(Those were the big ones, there were various other little activities like science fairs, British Council English papers, Infamous Mensa Test – then again you do nothing for that last one except show up and sit for it)

I had no time to put in the proper hours to practice the piano. I had maybe, half the hours. So I taped myself playing, looked for the tapes of my exam pieces as played by erm, “actual” pianists, listened to everything when I could, and swapped the aural exam (which you need to practice for) for the riskier on-the-spot “composition”-type thing where the examiner shows you a tune and you put in the accompaniment on the spot.

(I also wore taekwondo tournament pads around the house on occasion so I would move better in them on Championship day.)

I slept about 6 hours every day, and some nights I remember hoping to wake in the middle of the night, just so it would feel like I had had more hours in bed (instead of closing my eyes, then opening them a moment later to find it was time for school.)

One night when I was studying for the SPM, some of my mum’s students (about the same age as I was) showed up in cars they stopped outside the house – they’d been in the neighborhood and decided to drop by with a “hi” around 9.30pm on their way out to Goodness Knows Whatever The Cool Place Was In ‘90s Penang.

As their laughter bubbled up to the second floor and I peered out enviously at the cars parked in our driveway, I realized I had never been out in a car with a bunch of friends. There simply wasn’t time. The deal was I had to complete all the stuff my parents planned (like music) before I was allowed to do the stuff I wanted (like taekwondo).

When a child is used to training with the weights on, she flies after you take them off. But then sometimes after she takes off she never looks back.

With music, I don’t think there are many kids out there who willingly sit down and put in the hours they’re supposed to (though half the hours like what I did and scraping thru by the skin of my teeth might still be acceptable haha). Child protégés, children who are gifted, often risk their childhoods. (Not that I count myself one ok, I’ve met people who have perfect pitch, so I know to what extent I don’t. Really don’t.)

To this day what I really like is hip hop. Fergie and the Black Eyed Peas.

When I was pregnant with Rockstar I hated playing the piano. Maybe it’s a sign.

But then there’s also all the research showing music education does help developing brains. Maybe that’s a sign too.

I guess we’ll try it for awhile. When we get round to finding a convenient place for lessons/ a tutor he doesn’t hate with the force of a thousand suns.

I always performed better with carrots than sticks. I think it would be unfair to my own child if I forgot what a stick felt like.

Do we get the same benefits from drums (he wields a mean drumstick) or air guitar, or does it have to be piano or violin? Piano’s the less painful one right?

Kings thinks the guitar is too easy. My husband, who would rather go to the dentist than learn a musical instrument. Kings counts pretty much his whole family (himself included) tone deaf. My dad too.

If Rockstar really doesn’t take to music lessons (which isn’t like, out of the realm of possibility, given his family pedigree for musical talent)…

Maybe that’s a sign too.

ps: I really appreciate the email from a reader shortly after this was first posted, which is about as much experience as I’ve ever had with didgeridoos, trumpets and accordians. Hey. Those uh, also make music. There are more choices out there to make music lessons more palatable to a Rockstar…

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