A Lion Goes To School On CNY Dress Up Day

**Update: One of the comments wasn’t showing as intended in the comments field, so the commentator requested I delete it… However she had included a link to her blog with a picture of a unicorn (because I wasn’t sure if Rockstar had a unicorn or a lion) and so that’s here. 

It’s Chinese New Year Dress-up Day at Rockstar’s kindergarten… The kids have been making decorations for awhile (the fruits of which we’ve been seeing all over the classrooms though just before the holidays I think they will take some down and send them home so we can use the decorations at home over the festive period)… Rockstar was in a standard brocade jacket (like quite a few little boys) last year, and then I realized some people really go to town on dress-up days particularly the CNY one here, and well it’s kind of Rockstar’s and our first CNY in HK (unless you count the one where he was barely a month old). Well, Halloween was something, too. You’d get say, a child coming to school in a cow suit and his mum driving him wearing a big matching furry cow mask and hat. Some parents really take the opportunity to communicate to their child how serious/ involved they are with their schooling…

Brocade everywhere, a Mongolian-style jacket or two, it gets really festive – the school would remind us that even if it’s a celebration we don’t participate in, try not to send our kids to school in uniform on dress-up days as it can be quite upsetting for them when all the other little kids are dressed up – one thing I never admitted before was how every time I saw an email reminder from the school or note in the diary about remember not to put your child in uniform, I’d feel a chill.

Because had I been at my old job, I wouldn’t put it past myself to miss a dress-up day (on some celebration we don’t really celebrate), and then Rockstar might end up in a school uniform on that day <shudder>. Or at the very least I might grumble about having to rustle something up, instead of thoroughly enjoy it. My child might think I don’t care. Or just thought his “super fun” school activities were a nuisance. It doesn’t bear thinking.

So see how I overcompensated here?

Kings is the one who heroically rustled up the Rockstar-sized lion from somewhere in Sheung Wan after work one day, for HKD 99. I hadn’t even noticed it was Rockstar-sized (though it fits perfectly), until we got to school and people asked, “Where did you get one in his size?” My mum, who’s visiting this year, remarked, “Oh, what a nice unicorn!” Crap. is that a unicorn? Is that why it has a horn? I already told Rockstar it was a lion. And some rubbish or other about why the lion has a horn. I forgot they had unicorns.

It’s boiling in Penang, Malaysia this time of year (hence you can’t wear that many layers – Rockstar also requested he wear something red, which he is, a thick long-sleeved rugby shirt, under the silk jacket that btw is also HKD 99 bought in Sai Kung, reversible, and a dead ringer for way pricier Shanghai Tang-style jackets that last I checked were about HKD 600 at least) – but other than that Penang where my parents live is one of the more “chinese” and lion-dance-y places in Malaysia if I recall correctly. They have unicorns, dragons and the hokkien lions with the hairy legs and… Rockstar still thinks that’s a lion. But the actual lion has a broader flatter head and bigger ears doesn’t it?

The “lion” marching very seriously into school

Eagle-eyed readers might notice I velcro-ed the “body” of the lion (It’s. A. LION. I already told my son it’s a lion. Shutup.) to keep it from trailing on the floor when he didn’t have another person being the hind legs, but didn’t chop the extra off in case his friends wanted to play – which is why from the back it looks like it has a tail growing out of the base of its skull like a sperm cell. Fine. Family blog. Tadpole. Like a tadpole.

The little girl in front of him btw, is not actually in school uniform, though it looks like she’s in the ESF Kindy’s standard navy winter wear. It’s actually a smart double-breasted wool coat, under which she’s wearing a red-and-gold brocade cheongsam.

In fact, there are gorgeous little girls in brocade dresses everywhere, some with little fur collars or sleeves, some paired with mongolian jackets, some with additional fur-lined vests, all color-coordinated with tights and shoes/boots. Their mums must’ve had lots of fun this morning. Some girls have Chun-Li style buns, some have braids, a girl with cascading strawberry-blonde hair is in a soft pink cheongsam that matches her locks perfectly. Another blonde-and-blue-eyed little girl is sporting turquoise blue brocade that matches her eyes.

Yet another girl passes while I’m storing Rockstar’s extra snacks in the snack basket (feel so proud reminding Rockstar his vegetarian Indian friends can share because it’s pineapple tarts and custard buns) – she has chopsticks in her bun-ed hair, from which are swinging huge ornate Swarovski crystals that I’m sure weren’t from a kiddie hair accessories shop. Obviously even those who don’t celebrate are not gonna pass up an opportunity to dress up in CNY finery. Or raid their mum’s closets.

Before leaving, I remind Rockstar (a.k.a. Mr Anal) the lion is paper-mache and it’s meant to be played with. That means, don’t get upset if some of the white hair or sequins come off, or it gets squished, we can fix or replace it easily (and frankly Mr Anal Sr will probably want to bin it after CNY anyway). And with that, here are a few blurry pics of the lion gravely climbing the stairs to school. Passing mums try to snap pics along the way, he initially obliges but soon declares he is late and can’t stop. It’s really hard not to giggle when my pint-sized lionhead son tells people he is going to be late for school and marches purposefully up the stairs. Like, very seriously, I’m Going To Be Late For School. Yes, I Am Speaking Out Of A Lionhead Attached To My Shoulders. I’m Going To Be Late For School.

Sometimes it’s fun after all, being the littlest kid in class, walking gravely by with a giant lion-head on. Is there irony?

Posted in Rockstar Shots, School For Rockstar | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Merry Christmas To Me

Hello, Miu Miu

My Christmas pressie to myself arrived in the mail several days ago. Horribly late, or ridiculously early? The answer is late. I didn’t want to rush buying myself something for the sake of it being in time as a Xmas present (I think I’d understand) unless I really wanted it… But well also this was my original purchase:

Marc Jacobs textured green leather shoulder bag (half off at GBP 450-ish I think)

Because I don’t have a green bag and think red and green have an unexpected knack for being more “neutral” accessory colors than we usually give em credit for. I have a darkish rust-red YSL Muse bag that I’ve used like, forever, for work and which Kings occasionally checks on and sends for professional cleaning for me (if you don’t religiously replace the dehumidifiers in your closets in the wetter summer months in HK you will find that your bags and clothing will grow mold. Or, you could run several powerful electric dehumidifiers 24-7 and run up like, HKD 3,500+ power bills dehumidify-ing 1,400 square feet of apartment which is what happened to us when we first got here.)

Here's an old painting I did pre-Rockstar we had to throw out because it got moldy. Not that bad you say?

Here's a closeup of the mold

But Kings is sweet and anal so I forgive (kind of) the occasional manic cleaning spree that sees him chucking out keepsakes of sentimental value (like some of the art Rockstar brings home made of used tissue boxes, plastic bottles and cupcake holders. Or, possibly, our Xmas decorations.)

Both the bags were from net-a-porter.com, I got the sparkly Miu Miu after I returned the green Marc Jacobs – wasn’t big enough to fit my laptop (note to self: net-a-porter measurements run slightly small) and I was also mildly peeved that for a GBP 20 shipping charge my order on 21 Dec arrived on 29 Dec (and I had emailed on 27 or 28 Dec about it). There’s a disclaimer that because I’m buying a sale item they’re gonna be up to 72 hours late sending the shipment (and after I mailed asking what had happened I got a reply that “(my) sale item” – yes thank you for reminding me I am a lowly sale buyer – might take more than 72 hours to ship… But my expectations were kinda raised by Shopbop.com and Metmuseum.org both managing to send shipments that arrived significantly earlier than that – and I don’t even pay shipping for purchases above USD 100 at Shopbop.com, sale or otherwise (but if you return the purchase you have to pay your own shipping). And my other stuff was USD 100-something from both the US sites (I keep buying more and more of Rockstar’s toys from met museum), not to mention both those sites were having sales too…

Mac in Miu Miu, fits like a tee...

(Aiya anyway I am obviously kucing kurap customer to net-a-porter.com since they apparently cater to all the stars – and some more I am buying on sale… The Miu Miu was also like half off, and GBP 350…)

So anyway I ordered the Miu Miu, not really sure if I liked the sparkle (which I think is not really in right now, I would’ve preferred color-blocked leather), except I don’t own an envelope clutch or really anything in that shape. Except when it arrives both my men fall in love with it. My men and sparkles? Really?

This is Rockstar flipping the sequins from silver to garnet. He also makes stripes and checks. So yes, really.

As a laptop bag I guess it’s not bad – no magnet clasps and fits my iMac a lot better than the foam laptop cases I’d gotten earlier. Rockstar absolutely loves rubbing it. He can draw patterns in the sequins. And toggle the clasp. Now it’s even easier for him to get to my iPhone. (Btw want your small child to practice memorizing random numbers? Lock your iPhone and require a password.) Who knew, Miu Miu? You realize your priorities have changed when you compromise fashion for something that amuses your child. (I like Marni necklaces and cuffs for the same reason.)

And so the bag’s a keeper. I carry it with very casual (or non-frilly) clothing, leather jacket and jeans, boots, that kinda stuff… Except I’m still getting second looks from cute little girls in a lotta pink and ruffles, not grown women, because of all the sparkles. Feel a bit weird. Normally (when not pregnant) I’m a dresser for women, not men, unless the hub’s around. Well this is what happens when you cater to your men’s tastes… They both attract cute little girls humph.

Posted in Rockstar Shopping | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Lord Archer’s Lessons

Rough account re Lord Archer ok….. This is an e.g. of some of the ra-ra things I used to say in market commentary to RMs and ex-colleagues on a gloomy cold Monday like today… 

In 1974 (now) best-selling English author and former politician Jeffrey Archer, having been at 29yrs in 1969 youngest ever member of the House of Commons, was faced with probable bankruptcy after getting involved in a fraudulent investment scheme.

Instead of resigning himself to bankruptcy, he writes his first novel – Not A Penny More, Not A Penny Less – a fictional account based on his investment experience. He avoids bankruptcy from the proceeds of the book, and decides to become a writer, at the budding age of 34.

In 1987 it is reported he paid prostitute Monica Coughlin for sex. He sues The Daily Star newspaper for libel and wins GBP 500,000.

In 2001 he is tried and convicted of perjury (for the 1987 case – a friend who claimed Lord Archer owed him money and Lord Archer’s former assistant testified his 1987 alibi was fabricated (even funnier was one version I read long ago that said this “friend” provided the alibi for the wrong date) and sent to prison for 4 years. He has to pay back the GBP 500,000 to Daily Star plus GBP 1.3mio in legal expenses. He’d also just been selected by the Conservative Party as a candidate for the London Mayoral Election and has to withdraw.

Lord Archer, who must surely be used to some of the finer things in life by now, gets sent not just to any prison, but Belmarsh, a Cat A prison for murderers and hard-core drug addicts and the like, before later being transferred eventually to Cat D where they put the white collar crime boys. (At this point he is 61 and when most people are happily semi-retired, he finds himself in a slammer surrounded by what are considered the “worst” of criminals. He was even strip-searched like the other criminals. Was just thinking that aged 35, I already have no taste for being put in a slammer with convicted murderers and hard-core drug addicts. Don’t even bother wondering about the strip search.)

In jail, Lord Archer writes The Prison Diaries, arguably some of his best writing ever, in which he elegantly takes apart the judge who sentenced him and the people who helped put him behind bars. What better revenge than having thousands and thousands of readers read your side of the story and having it immortalized in a bunch of bestsellers?

He also uses the inspiration from interacting with the criminals for Cat ‘O Nine Tales and parts of the plot of Sons of Fortune. You can’t help being in the slammer but you can make it look like it’s a good thing after all. Kind of. Well, or you could just fall apart. Which would you prefer? Hmmm. This is hard.

It’s not like this multi-millionaire-with-title author is perfect or particularly brilliant – this guy makes HUGE mistakes in life (Near-Bankruptcy. Prostitution. Lousy alibi. The Worst Judgement In Friends Ever.) He’s probably made more spectacular mistakes than most of us. But he doesn’t give up. And there’s no wasted experiences, he seems to use everything. Well if you have to live it anyway, why not get the most of it to make it more worth your while?

Gotta be a lesson in there somewhere if last week was a crap-filled week. Or couple years in the slammer. So we can come back swinging on Monday.

Hai..... YA! Take that, dumb-*ss establishment!

Did you smile?

Well, can’t blame a girl for trying 🙂

PS: In Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make A Big Difference he talks about how our behavior is at times shaped a lot more by our immediate environment than by our longer term values – in other words if you’re in a shitty environment or being treated shitty, you are also likely to behave out of character and be a shitty person, as a reflex you may not even be aware of. You might be an essentially good person, having a bad day, tempted by the instant gratification of stooping to a cheap shot.

I’ve been tempted real often. Sorely tempted. (3 mergers, and a reporting line that could change 5 times in 3 years alone, what do you think?) In Tipping Point, the author elaborates how most of us have some consistency in behavior because we are pretty good at controlling our environment. In other words, don’t stay sitting in the cess pool til you can no longer smell it because you’re so used to it. Thank God for Starbucks and Cova, where if I felt helpless I could go do something nice and unrelated for someone else. And thank God for the blessings I had – sometimes it was literally You’ve Been So Blessed, Why Would You Fail To Turn That Into Praise By Going Against Your Conscience? Do You Think You Can Do Nearly As Well Without Keeping Him That Near You? Lemme look at that again: 3 mergers, 5 different reporting lines in 3 years alone – for you not to ever have been cut when everywhere the market is bad, you had a baby (in the first place you were hired pregnant to boot), banks are scaling back – He must have been very close! 

Thing is, the cheaper the person, the cheaper the shot they are going to take at you. (Well, d-uh). Want revenge? Do so well in whatever you’re endeavoring that they want to kill themselves from the jealousy. In fact, remember to forget they exist while you’re at it. They are that un-worth-it. There are reasons they call the people who take cheap shots cheap people. There are reasons you don’t like or respect them.

Pps: No prizes for guessing I’m probably writing about Malcolm Gladwell’s Tipping Point soon…

Posted in Rockstar Thoughts | 4 Comments

First Class For Durians

**Update: Rockstar saw the pic below on the blog, and while he may not know just how expensive a HKD 1,000 durian is in relation to how much they cost in SEA, he does know 1,000 is big… 

Me: Yes, darling that is a thousand-dollar durian.

Rockstar: Wow. Can it fly?

Me: As a matter of fact, it’s possible, darling. (Bearing in mind my initial quip below)

Rockstar: Not just any durian! Fly-ing durian! Hee hee hee. 

Me: For that price maybe they can fly their own plane.

Kings: Maybe you can fly after you eat it.

Rockstar: Mum – 

Me: We are not finding out. <giving Kings the eye> But let me offer you a compromise – we’ll put the money into a fund for future flying lessons. Lessons are more guaranteed than the easy way out like eating fruit that might fly right?

Flying lessons can join the wait list that includes ice skating lessons, further ski lessons and trumpet lessons (I’m kinda hoping to nudge him toward a saxophone instead :P)

———————————————————————————————————

Browsing a supermarket amid the clanging din of Chinese New Year music, I came across a stall that I thought would especially tickle my Southeast Asian readers:

"Are You Atas Enough For Me?"

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and yes these 3 durians have price tags of HKD 731.80, HKD 587 and a whopping HKD 1007.40 respectively.

Obviously these durians had their own seats on the plane. And it was probably not in coach/ economy like all us mere mortal schleppers during the holidays…

Posted in aileensml, Rockstar Shopping, Rockstarisms | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Here We Go A-Hormone Tripping (Or, Getting To Know Baby)

Rockstar Trip

The strangest thing about hormones is they don’t just make you feel like puking. When people asked “Any weird cravings?” I thought I didn’t have any. Last pregnancy I got my “kicks” ingesting a horrific number of calories, this pregnancy I’m up 15 lbs having barely entered my 2nd trimester but am not eating anything particularly sinful.

That in itself makes this pregnancy quite different from Rockstar’s. But insofar as the belief there is some connection between preggers you and your baby (I like to call it your body not being your own, having been hijacked, possessed, by this tiny other person who thinks your bladder is a squeeze toy and your natural sleep schedule a joke), I used to play these little games: Do I like music? Does the Rockstar seem to like the same music when he came out? What do I spend/ want to spend a lot of time doing? What does the little person end up enjoying today? 

(And when you can feel the baby kick, I do that with food and the sleep schedule too – what foods I eat seem to make the baby kick the most? Then my Gynea kept saying No lar, Cannot Be lar, you must just have been distracted, not realizing he was kicking sometimes but I remember Rockstar having a party particularly from 10.30pm every night. Because I’m a morning person, and was concerned he was going to be a night owl – when he came out he really was, it was impossible to get him to sleep between 11 and 2am, but from 6-9am he would have the sweetest, most maddeningly peaceful sleep.)

Besides it being just plain entertaining and a rejoicing in the blessing of pregnancy (well I need to throw myself a bone right, it isn’t fun puking over every little smell or even inconceivable catalyst), I also entertained the thought that older babies, little children, learn fast how to “hide” some of the erm, “less rewarding (to them)” traits in their personality. Before they learned (however young or not) to do that seemed a good time to learn what your child is (really going to be) like, which can help you make parenting decisions when they’re a little bigger.

Hence I also used to take note of Rockstar’s behavior as a new baby. (For e.g. he was the most bullheaded, determined, impatient but straight forward child ever – I learned early to stop colliding with him head-on (as a baby when we tried Cry-It-Out he screamed for hours, turned an angry red-purple, then passed out for almost an entire day before resuming – nurses and nannies had similar luck distracting him from what he wanted/ getting him to sleep). Telling him what to do never worked. Slowly instead we nudged the bull in the direction we needed him to go. Reasoning with him helped too – the point was convincing him what I wanted him to do was the right way to go so he wanted it. Then as he understood more language, our lives got better.)

In case you’re wondering why I don’t just go the traditional “Because Mummy says so!” route, it was because I wanted him to retain the determination and erm, tunnel vision, just not direct it at me. I thought fighting him head-on was a “waste” of both his energy and mine, when he could’ve been expending it on a new skill, like jigsaws or un-age-appropriate Lego. So we did “Because when Mummy says so there’s a darn good reason!”

Just one similarity between the pregnancies – I loathe most classical music (not that I particularly liked it to begin with, but…..). Especially tinkling piano pieces. With lotsa scales and arpeggios. They make me feel stressed. I can only do stuff like Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata. And once I was listening to it on a loop (because the other stuff on the CD was giving me palpitations – idly I wonder if a lot of his other pieces are like that because he got deaf and grouchy), Rockstar mentioned that he really liked the piece too. It occurred to me it’s the kind of piece I’d have enjoyed while carrying him as well, as I hated on all the fast piano pieces. And btw, I’d grown up playing quite a few of those pieces so in fact a lot of it sounds familiar. But now I hate ’em all anyway.

I always enjoy gangsta rap. (Though maybe not get my 4 year old hooked on Eminem like a certain other Aussie Mummy Blogger I like to link to haha.) But surely I’m reading too much into it that Rockstar’s been “rapping” out anything that comes into his head onto my iPhone for like a month now. (We should really get him an iPod Touch. I want my cellphone and its 16 GB memory back.) He is not particularly musical that I know of, the whole of Kings’ and half of my family are tone deaf (I’m not particularly musical either, just a fairly good mimic – it’s why I found aural tests tough, and instead went with on-the-spot composition/ harmonization).

Should I introduce Rockstar to rap? Except it’s really hard to find totally clean rap. In my head I imagine him on Youtube with skewed baseball cap (he loves wearing em) and the multi-F-word Eminem “sh*t” – like those kids who look totally Asian but sound totally not, with all the profanity. Haven’t decided, mainly because I haven’t determined if Kings’ll kill me if that happens. (Aw, but how could he, my husband’s a giant nerd and The Rockstar is his “cool” :D)

Anyway here’s the thing this time round: I want to read something. As I slowly get less fuzzy-headed, I crave words. Text. It started off innocuously enough, I started reading the SCMP’s Sunday Post cover to cover – including the cooking and tv guide stuff. (I save the pullout every week for the interior decorating article where they feature someone’s home in HK. Yes I have serious nesting bug.)

Except I watch almost no tv and why the hell would I care about making Hibiscus iced tea and jams? I haven’t cooked in maybe 5 years (Kings wanted the freedom of being able to not come home for dinner on short notice if a client called for drinks – he can have all the freedom he wants if I didn’t spend all my free time in the kitchen.)

Come to think of it I haven’t read for pure “pleasure” in the last few years between working and Rockstar-ing, except on occasional annual leave days either. But now I find books I dropped in favor of Bloomberg articles strangely attractive.

<Move Zuni cow from Metropolitan Museum of Art that grazes in the book case.> Hello, Stuff I’d Bought To Sit Impressively On Shelves, Half Expecting To Be Imbued With Knowledge Via Osmosis.

Cat O’Nine Tales. Just Because. I read all Jeffrey Archer’s short stories. (More bout that later).

Haruki Murakami’s 600-odd page surrealistic Kafka On The Shore. Totally gave up years ago, NY Times best seller list be damned. Might be the cat torture. No, I hadn’t even reached that far.

Of Mice And Men, read while cuddling zzz-ing Rockstar waiting for him to wake one am.

Satyajit Das’ Traders, Guns and Money. Pause. Black Swan Theory? Well if I’m reading anything….. Maybe I should dig up my old derivatives training materials? Why’m I so proud of (of all things) once being in a bank training room with Mr Das? Watching his interviews and stuff on the documentaries about the crises, was like watching a favorite rockstar. No I am not a stalker. Forgot about it til I saw him again.

Should lift Kings’ structured product term sheets. He mentioned sometime back he had some good stuff. I didn’t pursue it for the slight tinge of envy and wistfulness at the action my hub was getting <hang head in shame – but I don’t pretend to become a completely different person overnight> I can read those when I can’t read the other stuff. Save for rainy day.

Walter Wangerin’s Book Of God. (That’s actually the Bible written in novel form, as is his sequel, Paul.) I once bought up the few Bookazine had in stock to give to church friends. Get strangely upset by Sarah’s struggles with the slave woman Hagar before she finally bears a child. Get especially angry with Hagar. What’s up with that? Ok cannot cannot. Skip.

Still circling Life of Pi. Dying to read it, but it came highly recommended by an ex boyfriend with a taste for angsty, tragic tales (bless him – he tried to leave a good engineering job in the States to go into environmentalist, humanitarian- type work. If I recall correctly he is now married to someone he met during a demonstration against the government’s privatization of utilities almost a decade ago in Ecuador. I think it was.) Remember just in time that he warned me when he recommended it. Not with the hormones. Shelve.

Grapes of Wrath. Read half, realize it’s possibly tragic, check out plot, damn, someone’s baby dies and she breastfeeds a starving man too weak to eat. And it’s supposed to be a watered-down version of what really happened back then. Ponder.

Hey. They shot an old dog in Mice and Men. Murakami’s novel has a passage depicting this gross horrific cat torture. That didn’t cost me any lost sleep (unlike the lousy B-grade sci-fi horror VCD cover I haven’t forgiven Kings for leaving around. What kind of person watches The Human Centipede on a break? Still mad at him ok, can’t get the bloody thing out of my head when I wake several times a night.)

Have I taken on the selective empathy of a pistachio nut?

A Rockstar Nutface.

Better not push my luck, I have no recourse to drugs (yeah I know, like I ever really did. Kings had such a heart attack when someone I didn’t know offered me a rolled joint at a boat party years ago). Is there nothing deep-ish out there that is not tragic?

My old work notes. Surely I can read them without the slightest hint of mourning and the occasional (albeit tiny) doubt at leaving now, especially now. Also the cooking articles. Who knew there were people who carry their own boutique salt around in their bags (we are talking un-pregnant women here!)

When I’m done with Rockstar’s Meccano. And let’s take another look at that rap music.

Posted in Rockstar Thoughts | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Rockstarism #184 & 185 – Back To School

#184

Me: I saw (one of his good friends) at school drop-off today, he didn’t look very happy. Is he ok?

Rockstar: He said he went back to India for the holidays. To visit his grandma and grandpa. He says they didn’t have any sweets.

Me: (Want to laugh but carry on seriously anyway) Oh he wasn’t happy about the sweets?

Rockstar: I told him too many sweets are bad for you. He asked why. I said naughty germs like to eat sweets and then they eat your teeth too.

I remember telling him something about sweets spoiling your teeth, and then I try to keep it to (small) hard candies, thinking they last longer than the chewy gummy ones where kids probably inhale a few at one go without thinking… I’ve been dreading finally having to bring him to the dentist (he had his milk teeth checked by his pediatrician sometime back) because he hates being examined in those chairs… But now that he mentions, I realize he asks for a hard candy maybe once every few days at home, then within minutes will declare he’s had enough, spit the remainder in a tissue and throw it away. Obviously he feels the same way I do about not having to visit a dentist for as long as possible… Is this not just the absolute height of anal in a 4 year old… (Not that I’m complaining, at least he doesn’t insist on doing that when we’re outside…)

#185

After school one day (when our helper is sick, I cut her interaction with Rockstar from the half hour at school pickup to zero, and pick him up myself):

Rockstar: Mum. (Schoolmate) and I are having a playdate now. 

Me: What, right now? Says who, I didn’t get the memo. <Glance questioningly at schoolmate’s mum who soon returns my bewildered look as I suppose her son says something similar to her across the crowded school reception area where we’re all picking our kids up>

Rockstar: We decided. At the playground.

Me: You guys fixed your own playdate?? You didn’t think to let your mums know earlier?

Rockstar: We just decided at school today. I don’t have anything on after school. He says he doesn’t have anything on today too. 

Me: What makes you think your mums have nothing on???

Rockstar: <patiently> You’re meeting me after school, Mummy. <glance pointedly at other mum and son>

Me: <fake huffily> Ay, you think your mother has no life except to do stuff you want after school, isit?

Rockstar: <authoritatively – not sure fake or not> When I’m busy in school you can do your own things. Can we have cupcakes at the babycinno place <pause> please? (Which has a small play area after they’ve had their snacks)

… It occurred to me Rockstar and Other Rockstar, both younger children in their year, had gone about planning their own after-school activity during the free play part of their school day at Kindergarten… As in they’d had a good time and then when they had to go back in to their different classes for serious learning time, they decided to take it up again after their lessons… And then I had a vague recollection of something I’d read in one of the weekly emails parents receive from the school:

The Open Activities part of our session……………..is the time during the session where children have a degree of choice about what activities they would like to take part in, unlike the rest of the time where the activities are adult initiated. The activities are a mix of adult led or initiated and others which are adult facilitated, but child initiated. It is important that our programme includes this session where children can make choices about their learning and the group that they are learning in, as this element of choice in itself leads to developing independence, critical thinking skills, and language and social skills. Being able to make choices about how they use materials and not always having “a specific outcome” is vital in enabling children to make connections between different concepts. 

There was also a quote from Building Learning Opportunities in Early Years Settings – Guy Claxton, Early Childhood Education Seminar, Singapore 2010 in the same email:

We have to find a way to make some part of children’s learning not about specific answers and data, but instead provide them time and materials to explore non-obvious connections. I think children should have plenty of time engaging in play that has no specific answers, but that allows children to develop skills that are more intangible – such as curiosity, perseverance, extrapolation, reflection, rethinking, scaffolding, and, even, teamwork.” 

 

So anyway we took up our boys’ petition. They’re still at the age where we found their initiative somewhere between cute and hilarious, rather than say, presumptuous. (If our husbands did that then well, maybe that’s another story haha). Figured at least we could be supportive… Couldn’t fault the two boys’ logic – they’d apparently discussed that their mums were free and so were they, so why not?

But more than that, it seemed especially important to them that their reasoning and initiative in setting up their own thing were taken seriously, and so we went with it.

And after all, they said “please” 🙂

Posted in Rockstarisms | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

8 Minutes 11 Seconds

2 mins 35 seconds – call is picked up

Conversation completely in Cantonese:

(After my cellphone number and home address are verified)
Me: Can we have the Hawaiian… The Hawaiian – which one has only ham and pineapple?
Pizza Guy: Something in Cantonese.
Me: I didn’t understand that. Can you say that bit in English?
Pizza Guy: Is-it- (speaks more slowly but repeats what I suppose is the name of the pizza in Cantonese)
Me: I can’t understand, what is that in English?

Pizza Guy: (Rattles off a bunch of ingredients completely in Cantonese for each pizza. For a minute I’m irritated – he can’t even say “ham” or “pineapple” in English so I can understand some of it?? Come to think of it, I thought I knew the Cantonese words for “ham” and “pineapple” – how come none of what he just said sounds like “ham” or “pineapple” in Cantonese??) Why don’t I get our English-speaking colleague to take your order?

Me: (plaintively – I’m starving, home alone with Rockstar and want to get him bathed and dressed quickly) I always have to wait on hold longer for your English guy. Can’t you just confirm the name of that pizza of yours in English? Just the name, I know it’s Hawaiian-something, you guys have two Hawaiian-somethings. Then I’ll remember if that was what we ordered last time.
Pizza Guy: I…. Really don’t know what that is in English.

Me: You can’t say some of the ingredients in English either?? Not even “only pine-apple and ham” which is the one I want???

Pizza Guy: Wh-y don’t I get our English-speaking colleague to take your order?

3 minutes 42 seconds – placed on hold <dance* dance* in frustration>
4:30 – feel like hanging up. Has it really been less than a minute on hold??
5.25 – start reading Jeffrey Archer’s Cat O’ Nine Tales – it’s the only reason I haven’t given up and just tried calling the main line again.
6:02 – <thinking> maybe they’ve forgotten to transfer my call and I’m just on hold indefinitely.

6:15 – <thinking> maybe Pizza Guy had a seizure. Or passed out from not eating dinner. I could understand That. Now there’s no one left to tell the other pizza people I’m on hold for an English speaking pizza person. Keep reading.

6:25 – <thinking> maybe one of the pizzas caught fire. The whole place has burned down. I should try Pizza Hut.

6:37 – call picked up by someone in Cantonese who can understand a few words in English. (Yes she still speaks to me in Cantonese. From experience, they are usually still much faster in Cantonese even when they can speak English.)

Pizza Girl: What’s your name and n – why don’t I re-read your number and address quickly? Swiftly runs thru in Cantonese. (NB: You will shave even more seconds off all your waiting times at local places is you memorize your name, address, telephone number in Cantonese. I am still working on the pizza names. They sound nothing like “Hawaiian Pizza” in English.)

7:46 – I confirm my pizza choices, add 4 extra toppings and one stuffed crust. Rockstar and I are boning up on calcium, but Kings is on his perpetual diet. Then I decline a few specials. Half English, half Cantonese.

8:11 – Pizza Girl: Your order will arrive in under 25 minutes. (I also learned to call maybe 15 mins before 6pm – after that on bad days you might have to wait more than an hour.)

I’d never timed my pizza order before. Every time Kings or I am on hold, it just felt like an eternity – today when I actually looked at the call time on my cellphone, I’m flabbergasted. This has been one of the times our almost weekly order has taken exasperatingly longer. But from the call time, I’ve actually only been put on hold a minute or two, here and there. When did we become that impatient, that used to/ spoiled for speed?

PHD Pizza Delivery - I had to get a pic with their guy running like Flash Gordon

I recall one trip back to Seremban, Kings tearing his hair out at a KFC counter in a mall. In the then-empty outlet at an off-peak time, he was trying to get me a Zinger with no mayo. After almost 20 mins and a few grumbles at the frontline staff, Kings asked to see a rather bewildered manager. “No, it hasn’t been 20 minutes, it’s been maybe 17 minutes sir…”

She couldn’t understand what he was so upset about. Kings could not understand why it wasn’t obvious why he was so upset. (Now I find this hilarious, but of course when my husband was dancing about going mad with impatience at the counter (I’d joined him only later, oblivious he’d been waiting that long) none of us thought it was that funny).

We left without the Zinger we’d paid for. Kings really couldn’t wait. It’s not the first time.

It’s only after timing our latest pizza order that I realized the “jurang perbezaan”, massive difference and why everyone felt the way they did. Living here sometimes you don’t realize how used you are to how fast things move. We should sit on our hands longer, next time we go back.

The delivery guy is standing on out doorstep in about 20 minutes, after I fail to buzz him up. Our apartment reception desk must’ve done it while one of us was still in the bath.

And then I remember once overhearing our admin staff in one of the HK dealing rooms on hold with someone in a Malaysian office going “OMGeeee I’m going crazy, they’re sooo slow!!” <laughing – aforementioned HK admin staff btw was an “auntie” with 2 grown children> “But then you feel really bad snapping at them to move faster because everyone on the other end is always so nice……”

ps: pic was from the pizza website

Posted in aileensml | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Remember The “Shame On HSBC” Photos?

Remember the photos Kings took of the protest outside the main HSBC building in this post?

So we passed by again few days ago and I snapped this from the car:

Someone actually decorated the booth on the right with tinsel during this past Christmas…

Posted in aileensml | Tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Just Another Gynea Visit

The waiting room is so crowded I can hardly find a seat. The room is filled with pregnant women, one or two with a mum or husband in tow. In “good” years, local friends have told me to expect to wait more than an hour after your appointed time, and today’s obviously one of those (doesn’t happen every single time, but most). That’s something, because this is usually-superfast-moving HK. In fact, no one takes more than 10 or 15 minutes with the doctor, so it’s not like anyone’s hogging.

I feel like I’m on an assembly line. Waddle in, waddle out. (Ok, I don’t waddle yet, but still…) I also notice I’m the only one in (albeit low) heels – my Marc Jacobs find no comradeship among the flat-heeled knee or ankle-high Tory Burches, Uggs, Gucci….. And it’s been cold, like 11-13 degrees Celsius, so most of us are in poncho-style knits (I’m wearing my new favorite from Eden Park, bought by Kings when he walked by a store on the way to work one day). I’m the only one in old maternity jeans though – everyone else in in tights or jeggings tucked into their boots. A girlfriend already commented they’re “ugly” and recommended tights + dress, but I don’t feel warm enough with tights.

Blurry pic of Eden Park sweater Kings bot me

Register (which btw is to make eye contact and wave at the elderly nurse at reception because she recognizes everyone) and get weighed and your blood pressure checked, then back outside where the portable air cleaner has a place of honor and rumbles reassuringly. Two more husbands come in, obviously having snuck off work. One obviously has a cold and I put on one of those paper face masks. After all the flu scares in HK, you don’t feel weird wearing a face mask on the streets or in crowded, noticeably local places.

It’s one of the “little” things I like about HK. You’re sick, you wear a mask. You’re worried someone else makes you sick, you wear a mask. In contrast, I’ve had Malaysian aunties say, “So embarrassing to wear mask. People look at you and wonder what’s so wrong with you.” I always think people who are sick and bother to wear a mask (and at least some people in HK do) are being pretty considerate – it’s something I thought was quite interesting, given people outside HK in say, Singapore or Malaysia have said to me before how they find HK so dog-eat-dog.

Come to think of it I noted with satisfaction that even Rockstar’s snuffly classmates put on face masks in class on occasion, and they’re like, four. And it’s part of standard school run to take your child’s temperature every day before sending him off to school (though I hate doing it, lazy as I am – still, I guess it’s to deter some of the helpers in particular from taking the easy way out and still farming a feverish child off on the school for a few hours and yes, helpers really have admitted to doing it – the school calls you to take your sick child home, btw. I’ll never complain about it, cos I figure if they’re tough with me, they’re tough with someone else who might make my child sick too, and anyway I’d rather get called for umpteen false alarms than kick up a fuss and encourage any school to not call me and then God forbid something’s up.)

Btw while I’m typing this sitting in a cafe, I just watched another woman in a nice haircut and fur-collared coat walk by – wearing a face mask. After my last bout of cough/cold with no recourse to medication (seriously-trying-not-to-take-anything!! If I could do that last pregnancy despite the long working hours, how can I not when I’m not working?) for which I’m almost resigned to a residual cough being around for the rest of my pregnancy, I don’t care how dorky I look. I had a Taiwanese girlfriend living here who wore a mask every time she stepped out on the crowded streets.

There are times to build up resistance to the microbes in your city, and there are times to wimp out. When your resistance is low and you are determined not to take any drugs sounds like a good time. I’m probably never gonna see these people who think I’m dorky again. But if I get sick I’m gonna be feeling like crap for a lot more days and nights than the 2-minute opinion of someone I’m never gonna meet again.

So I AM DORK. HEAR ME ROAR.

After being tested for pregnancy diabetes (not too surprising, I don’t have any – milk and juice make me sick and while I’ve never had that much of a sweet tooth, I currently loathe cakes and sweets), I inform the nurse of my hospital room choice. Her response is not reassuring, “We’ve just got to see what’s available when the time comes, we already mentioned your preference for a single room.” “But…” I struggle in broken Cantonese + English. (They all understand English, including at the hospital, just everyone very obviously prefers Cantonese). Some in the room perk up interestedly – a couple women are still in their first trimester. “There are 3 kinds of single rooms, the standard, the deluxe (extra HKD 2,000 a night), and whatever-the-next-is for extra HKD 4,200 a night). The hospital said to indicate which…” “Okok later can? You paid already right? They will at least try to keep something.”

(We had to make a HKD 20,000 deposit during the recent Xmas hols to secure a room, we happened to drop by 7pm one Friday night to do it and after a quick phone call, they said there was a nurse free on the baby ward to show us around, what with the new renovations. It’s one of the popular private hospitals among local Hongkies, and I can understand why – the staff are extremely efficient and helpful (not that we have a choice – this is just where our gynea goes) when not horribly overworked. I compared notes during Rockstar’s Golden Pig year with local colleagues whose babies were born a year or two earlier and realized there’d been like, 5 or 8 times more babies when we were there – “they were probably going out of their mind!” my colleague snorted. In fact, she had happily extended her hospital stay to a whopping 10 days because she was getting lotsa “free” breastfeeding and baby care lessons from the nurses and just enjoyed her stay so much. She almost cried when she had to leave. In our case, Kings almost cried until we could “finally” leave haha.)

Sniffly dad-to-be coughs, rubs his runny nose with his hands (no tissue), and some of the other women flinch. I’m mildly annoyed too – at least put on a mask if you just have to be here, you’re sitting in a crowded little waiting room with a bunch of pregnant women (all local Hongkie this round btw, from their conversations), many of whom I’m sure are also trying their darnedest to avoid taking any medication. Another woman takes a spray bottle of sanitizer out and cleans her own hands. Come to think of it, whose sniffly husband is this? I suppose his wife doesn’t really want to claim ownership right now – I only discover who he’s come with (she was quietly reading a book in a corner and not looking at or talking to him) when it’s their turn to go in.

“So where do we go to book our room?” sniffly dad asks the nurse when they come out. I can’t hear the reply, presumably something about going to pay the deposit after the blood test around the end of your first trimester.

Just before I leave, when the room is almost empty, the nurse volunteers, “In your final month, remind me to call the ward and check if we can get your room of choice,” and I thank her.

Why We Need A Room:

Oh, Get A Room. (We're trying, we're trying!)

We’ve “sold” Rockstar on an “adventurous” hospital stay (after checking with the nurse at the ward that we can bring him in provided we keep him quiet and out of sight most of the time) whereby he gets to see what the whole baby business is all about. He will be following Kings around on all the errands while I’m bedridden. For that experience alone, there’s a good chance he’ll be on his best behavior, but the less he gets in anyone else’s way when it’s crowded in the hospital next year, the better. It’s so crowded we’re worried we’ll get kicked out… That was why we were a little fussed about the room…

And I still don’t know if I’m carrying a boy or a girl. Gynea wanted to wait a few more weeks to be sure so we didn’t even do an ultrasound this time round. But I don’t think the baby has wings…

Posted in Rockstar Thoughts, Talking To Rockstar | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Rockstarism #182 & #183 – The “I Know Not If I Am A Man Dreaming I Am A Butterfly” Rockstarisms

#182

Rockstar: <waving extendable antenna from radio controlled car at JD> Abracadabraaaa….. Zap!

Me: What are you doing to the poor dog now?

Rockstar: I turned her into a giraffe.

Me: <glancing at formerly asleep dog with long-suffering look on her face> Did it work?

Rockstar: Not yet.

Me: It takes time?

Rockstar: Like, 10 minutes.

Of course in 10 minutes he’s “forgotten” and the (still) dog has gone back to sleep…

 

#183

Looking at baby at next table wearing one of those onesies with angel wings on the back… I’ve been encouraging him to observe other babies in the hopes of raising his erm, “tolerance level” for baby noise, since in general he complains many various loud noises bother him…

Rockstar: Mum. What’s that?

Me: Wings, darling. Little wings on the baby’s shirt.

After awhile…

Rockstar: Mum. I think it would be cool if your baby has wings. Can fly. Flying babeeeee Hee Hee Hee.

Me: No it would not be cool if our baby can fly. <thinking Why does he always say “your” baby, like it’s just my problem I’m knocked up> It would be freaky if our baby can fly. They would be testing the air pollution levels and possibly our drinking water. That baby doesn’t really have wings. The wings are part of the baby’s clothes. (Though come to think of it he already knew that.)

<Thoughtful pause>

Rockstar: Mum. Are you only going to have a baby?

Me: What “only” a baby, as opposed to what, something that can fly? 

Rockstar: It would be more interesting if we get something that can fly. Hee. 

Me: What exactly do you think Mummy grows in here? Chickens, ducks, other farm animals? And what does that make you?

<Rockstar launches into songs from Cbeebies’ 3rd And Bird which is a bunch of different birds doing a musical skit – have to admit their songs are quite catchy. I took advantage of that to have a conversation with Rockstar from a bird watching book he came home from the school library with one day – how you can guess what the birds eat based on the shape of their beaks…>

Rockstar: (singing) Just-Like-Ba-by-Muf-fin*. 

We were having cupcakes at the time...

* Littlest pink parrot with a bow on her head; his other favorite is a dancing toucan (if I recall correctly), named Gordon who occasionally wears a straw boater… Obviously he has also suggested we name the baby “Muffin”… 

Posted in Rockstarisms, Talking To Rockstar | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments